Shifting winds of confidence
Some days, if the wind is just right and I’m the proper amount of sleep-deprived, I can convince myself that I’m a rock-star cowgirl who has this work, ranching, cattle and kid-raising situation under control.
Like last weekend when I was helping sort cows into the chute for medicine, for example. I was following the cattle down the alley with a sorting stick yelling “Whoop, whoop, c’mon girls, hya, hya, hya!” feeling strong and capable. When they loaded right into the chute and I grabbed the rope to close the gate, climbed up on the fence for a head count (which we all know is the most important thing, really) and then hopped back down to do it all over again, I had a brief moment where I thought, “Well, this is the life. I can do this. I was made for this.”
But that confidence? Well, it comes in waves. Or, because we’re in North Dakota, more like gusts.
Because just as soon as the wind blows my neckerchief the right way so that I start feeling like the underdog ranch hand in a John Wayne movie finally getting the respect I deserve, the wind shifts and covers me in a nice, authentic layer of dirt and cow poop better known as a reality check.
But I’m nothing if I’m not diverse in my experiences. Sometimes, in the course of two days, I feel like I’m five different people.
Last weekend I started my morning off as snuggly-booger-wiping-Mom, moved on to pony-riding-lesson-Mom in the afternoon
and then I loaded up my guitar to be a singer-in-the-big-town at night.
Then I headed home in the dark so I could get up early to be pancake-making-Mom in the morning, cow-chasing-Mom in the afternoon and supper-making-dishwashing-deadline-meeting-bedtime-story-lullaby-singing-Mom in the evening.
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And maybe that’s where the whole problem lies in the first place, now that I think of it. Maybe there are just too many things weighing on my mind for me to properly and swiftly react to the angry, pregnant, half-ton cow lowering her head and running toward me in the sorting pen while my husband tries to find his voice to warn me.
“Surely she isn’t coming for me?” I wondered to myself in the half a second I had to think about the meaning of my life. “Surely she’ll go around this rock-star cowgirl who has her life under control. Seriously, everyone underestimates my capabilities. I was born to do this. It’s in my blood. If I just wave my hands and yell ‘hya’ and…oh…my…g… RUN!”
Yeah, some days, if the wind is just right and I’m the proper amount of sleep-deprived, I can convince myself I’m an underestimated rock-star-cowgirl-mom. And some days a 1,300-pound cow rams her giant, angry head into the bony part of my backside, sending me running for my life to the fence line and my husband into near cardiac arrest.
Because, like I said, this whole “under control” thing? Yeah, it comes in gusts.
And the sigh of relief I breathed when I reached that fence? Well, I just hope it shifted the winds and blew someone’s neckerchief the right way.
If you need me, I’ll be folding laundry and sitting on an ice pack.
Love it! 🙂
Life periodically gives all of us these “Reality Checks”. Some are forgotten sooner than they should be, others, not so much. A sense of humor about them certainly can help the sting, or in your case contusion, heal faster.
OMG this brought back a memory to me. When my sis and I were young we carried an afternoon lunch to my father who was working in the field. As we were coming back through the barnyard, a bull known to be angry, spotted us and started chasing us! We ran as fast as our legs could carry us, threw the lunch bucket and ourselves over the wooden gate/fence just as he slammed into the fence! When my father heard about it, he sold this always angry bull and from then on used artificial insemination! He had been ugly to my Dad too and one of our neighbors had been mulled to death by his bull, so I guess that scared him enough to get rid of it.
Boy I have been there – and wrote about it https://emjayandthem.com/2016/04/08/the-right-side-of-the-gate/
That picture of your oldest lovey up on the pony … ooh ahh. Dreamworthy!
Hope your backside heals quickly!
Awww thank you I love this post, you talking about confidance,is what I need today and always, I have Cerebral Palsy on my right leg only. I have a walker but I’m trying to get off of it. I rode horses since I was three years old and up. And I’m going to ride horses again soon. I hope someday I’ll walk again with out the walker someday, like I did when I was little. So thank you so much ☺️ ❤️😍🥰🤩🐎🐴