News from the ranch: Rosie, my six-year-old, found out her uncle had a tiny little dirt bike in his garage and has been driving it around the loop in our yard incessantly for the past few days. This discovery was made when I left her home with my husband for a daddy-daughter weekend while I worked meetings in town and her big sister was at the sleepover of a lifetime at the lake.

As you can imagine, one sister’s announcement about a sleepover at the lake with friends could have been disastrous in the jealousy department if the next words out of my husband’s mouth weren’t, “It will be just you and me! We can do whatever we want!”

“Rollerskating?! Horse Riding?! Movie Night?! Waterpark?!”  Rosie’s list went on and on while my husband nodded and I walked out of the door that Saturday morning only to return fourteen hours later to find my youngest daughter wide awake in our big bed at 10:30 pm, my husband dozing next to her, both of them surrounded by a variety candy wrappers while a very dramatic part of the movie “Hook” played on the TV.  

“Oh, you’re still awake?” I noted, not really that surprised.

“Daddy, pass me the bubblegum would ja please?” Rosie chirped.

Turns out after they dressed up and went to town for a “fancy” supper at the steakhouse, my husband took his youngest daughter to the grocery store, let her push one of the kid’s carts, and told her to have at it in the candy section. And if you know Rosie, the girl didn’t hold back.

I looked at them all cozy in the bed after coming home from a long day of meetings and was immediately jealous. I haven’t been on a date like that with my husband in over a year. What a night!

And it turns out the day was just as good as Rosie tagged along with her dad to help with chores, played with her cousins (of course) and discovered that she was, indeed, born to be wild on that little dirt bike. Then, she returned home for lunch and to perform an extended version of her solo concert for her adoring audience of one on her guitar, singing at the top of her lungs without any threat of a “shush” coming from her big sister.

Sunday came and my husband kept the promise going (with a proper amount of prodding from his daughter). I came home in the afternoon to find them out in the yard shooting bows at the wild boar target. Rosie glanced over her shoulder at me with a slight look of annoyance and shot an arrow right over the back of that boar. “You missed all my bullseyes,” she declared, before pulling that little bow back again to prove her point. Then,  “Come watch me on this dirt bike.”

The girl was living her best life. Round and round she went, each pass reminding me that she’s the culmination of generations of adventurous men, whose next step would certainly have been to build a ramp.

I suggested we go inside and catch up and cool off before it came to that. I stood in the kitchen attempting a conversation with my husband, but Rosie made sure to remind him that the weekend wasn’t over. I stepped away to change my clothes and came back to the kitchen to find our daughter sitting on her daddy’s lap, trimmer in hand, shaping up his beard (for real), deep into a game of barber/makeover. The amount of mousse she put in his hair made a quite permanent spike on top of his head, which she was pleased with after about 20 minutes of fussing and ordering me around as her assistant.  Then she picked out his outfit (but first had to try it on herself) and off we went to my parents’ for Sunday supper, my husband in his vacation shirt, Rosie in her fancy shoes and me, charged with the task of being their pretend professional driver on their trip around their private island.

Anyway, I’m re-hashing all of this because some days I worry about raising these daughters in a world that puts on so many facades. How will they find genuine people to love? How will they keep their confidence? How can they stay brave? Will they stick to things that bring them joy? Most days parenthood is clouded with all sorts of these uncertainties.

Some days it all feels so powerless, the task of changing the world.

But last weekend I looked at my husband plopping that helmet on his daughter’s little head and hollering out encouragements as she kicked up dust. In that moment he wasn’t afraid for her, but excited to see her zoom. Happy that she was mastering something with enthusiasm. Filled with patience and adoration for his little shadow and good Lord that man. Good Lord he’s doing it, changing the world, one little girl and one rock-solid hairdo at a time.