And now a true story about what it’s like being me trying to be a ranch hand and a housewife and why I may need to start shopping for khakis and a house in the suburbs.
The scene: Going with my dad on a ride to gather cows. We are in a hurry because every day it gets darker a little earlier. It was 7:30. It gets dark at 8:30… or something like that.
And now me explaining myself: I’ve never been able to keep up with my dad on a horse, and I’m afraid no matter how much help I think I am, I’m quite certain he would be better off without me.
I mean, I could be riding a racehorse. You know, one of those fast buggers that wins the races that racehorses win. It could have countless trophies, made jockeys famous and fans from around the world could be chanting his name. And that horse would take one look at me and decide that running isn’t his thing today.
And neither is trotting for that matter.
Nope. Not until we’re pointing toward the barn anyway. Or cutting a path through the thick trees. Yeah, in the trees he’d find a quick pace.
But Dad? Dad could ride a horse that was halfway to the light at the end of the tunnel and that horse would turn right around to give him his last breath.
So this is what I deal with when we’re in a hurry: Kicking and pushing and working to find a pace on a lazy horse to keep up with Dad as he heads toward the trees, providing me with directions that I cannot hear because he is facing the hills and I am three horse lengths behind him.
I yell, “What?”
And he says something about following a cow through the trail in the trees.
So I do.
Only there isn’t a trail.
So me and my suddenly lightning-fast horse make our own trail through the brush so thick that I lose sight of the cow I’m supposed to be following (and all forms of life and light for that matter).
I hear Dad hollering from what seems like 20 miles away and wonder how he got that far in what I thought has only been 30 seconds (I’m not sure though because I lose all sense of time because I’m focusing on trying to keep both my eyeballs as we duck and weave and through the thick brush).
“Jessss!!!” Dad’s voice echoes through the trees. “Wheeereee youuuuu attt?”
“Uhhhh…” I spit the leaves from my mouth. “Just, uh, cutting a trail here…”
…and bringing with me some souvenirs: sticks in my shirt, leaves down my pants, acorns in my pockets and twigs jammed nicely in the puffs of my ponytail as I emerge on the other side of the brush alone and searching for any sign of the cow I was supposed to keep an eye on.
Ah, never mind, looks like Dad has her through the gate.
I kick my horse to catch up while I work on ridding myself of the vegetation I acquired on my “Blair Witch” journey through the coulee.
I catch up just in time to follow him to the top of a hill, down through another coulee, along the road and into the barnyard where we load up the horses and I wait to make sure Dad’s tractor starts so he can get home and get a bale of hay.
It does not start.
So I drive him and the horses home.
Because I have precious cargo.
And because apparently I like to torture this man who is trying to beat the sun.
And the other man in my life, the one I married, was still at work when I got in from “helping.” So I decided to make him a casserole, only to be asked, three bites into his meal, what I put in this thing.
“Cheese, noodles, hamburger… the regular… why?”
He gets up from his chair, pulls something from his mouth, looks and me and says:
“Because I just bit into a stick.”
If you know of any nice places in the suburbs, give me a call. I’ll be shopping for khakis and looking for a new job.
Great post but the countryside is better than the suburbs
Haha I agree!
Thanks. Im more now country than citu
unfortunately us mediocre farmgirls/cowgirls would really mess suburbia up…better stay where we are happy!!
Nah! You keep doing you😁 I pride myself on keeping the mundane out of my family’s life…sticks in the casserole, eggs tucked into “safe places” until I go back inside (not nice to discover several weeks later by squashing them with your bare feet while getting the tree branch I helpfully pruned from the barn roof)…we keep them feeling needed and (after a while) laughing🤣
You live in one of the best places on Earth to raise children, and live a good, healthy life. They will know where their food comes from, how to work hard, and the love of family and friends that all pull together. Can’t think of a better start in life. You are doing fine where you are. Stay put! 🙂
Love it! 🤣👍